im not going to the funeral
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| Tue, 09-28-2004 - 2:04pm |
and this morning my daughters car left her stranded in a major highway and she had to call a tow truck.
NOW IS THAT ISN'T AN OMEN TO STAY HOME I DONT KNOW WHAT IS
I am not going
I am not going to subject myself, as everyone here says, to the torture of the show that he will put on with his girlfriend (who doesnt even belong there, she never even met the mother while the mother was coherent, and has only been on the scene about 3-4 weeks).
Forget it...i know seeing the entire family will upset me. Not to mention the last time I spoke with my sister-In-law, she blamed me for my son being on heroin because I left my EX (her brother) and hung up on me.
FORGET IT.
IF he wants his kids to go, he is going to have to provide transportation. And BELIEVE ME, he will be STEAMING MAD. I know he just lost his mother and I know this is a hard time for him, but I have also witnessed my EX punching his mother in the arm, degrading her beyond belief and even one time, holding a hot pan of frying pan grease and threatening to throw it on her. So if ANYONE HAS GUILT< IT SHOULD BE MY EX, NOT ME.
AMEN GIRLS??????????
yeah AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I just cannot go. This family treated another daughter in law very badly for 8 years after her divorce from my EX-s brother and called her names. She still shows up for everything even though she is remarried now and she will be at the funeral, however, her situation was not totally like mine. She did not have to leave with financial devestation and there was no court fight for her at all. She also got child support from him and she got the entire house paid for. She also does not suffer from bipolar disorder. I feel I have to look at my situation individually and I know going to this will set me back months and months, and to see him with another right now, I cant do it. I dont want to do it. I need to concentrate on me.
I must mention also, that I didnt see my Mother in law for the last two years anyway, i wasnt really welcome over there. So i must let this go, send flowers, send a card to the appropriate family members and let it go.
Thanks for you help, i love you all.
I wish the best for each and every one of you each day as we all struggle together through our paths of recovery.
Pam
