I'm so mad Pleae HELP!!
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I'm so mad Pleae HELP!!
| Sat, 02-18-2006 - 12:59am |
I need anyones input please. I just read this crazy email from my ex's sister. Pretty much chewing me out. How dare I tell anyone that I'm scared of him or that I'm Scared of him stalking me. Its all my fault because I should of left him long time ago like she told me too. And how dare I ask her mother to relay a message for me to him. (by the way I did this because my lawyer told me to) I'm trying to get my sons last name changed to mine. And the only way to do this is to have him agree to do this or get his rights taken away. And I'm sure as yall all know that isnt a easy task. I have to file child support now and wait for him not to pay and then MAYBE I can get it done. So I guess he just got served thats why I got this email. This is one quote from her email "Everything you want to do involving Caden or what-ever you want to do can be done with out contacting my mom. DO NOT dial her number again. Forget you know them. She don't want you harrassing her. " I didn't know one call was harrassing. But it is apparent how they all feel about my son. What makes me even more mad is that before she was married she was in an abusive relationship. You think she would understand. And she knows what her brother has done. His parents have had to call the police on him before on several occasions. He has threatened to burn their house down and has gotten physical with them. I want to respond to her email so bad. But deep down I know this will cause more problems. Maybe I should just drop the child support all together. Thank you for listening I needed to vent If you have ny input please, please let me know.

Babe, you're daring to do what she doesn't want at they moment and she's throwing a tantrum like an oversized spoiled brat.
Hi keithade,
I would not respond to the email.You did what you needed to do,no more no less.I don't think one phone calls equals harassment,especially when you were instructed to do so by your attorney.
Although I don't know your in-laws,it doesn't surprise me that they are acting this way.I've seen it happen so many times.They know their son/brother is an abuser,yet when it comes down to it they side with him.In your case it may be that they are afraid of him.Who knows,but either way, keep doing what is best for you and your child.Don't be intimidated by his family.I would definatly make a copy of the email,and keep it for future reference.
It's extremely stressful going through a situation like this,especially when you feel you have so many things/people against you.Intimidation from the abuser is enough to deal with,add intimidation from his whole family and its enough to make you want to run and hide.Dont give up, have NO CONTACT with them unless its absoulutely neccesary.It will be much easier for you to keep your focus if you don't have thier B.S. influencing your actions/decisons.Take care,
Serenity