it all keeps adding up!!!

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Registered: 05-03-2004
it all keeps adding up!!!
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Sat, 07-29-2006 - 2:03am
ugh the bad things just keep coming...today i had about 10 calls from a pricate number but never answered them cuz i was busy...then tonight im out with friends and get a call from a private number and theres no answer to my probing and then i hear someone clear their throat and it def. sounded like my ex....cuz hes just very distinctive and he would ALWAYS clear his throat which bugged me to no end...so great..then my mom calls me and says i think ur ex called here and then hung up it was someone using a calling card, the same type he used when he was away with work...so great so my mom is worried bout my dogs alone at home so i agree to take them to her house, get there and shes on the phone with my auntie who is my dads sister-in-law(parents have been divorced for 20 years, havent seen him for about 6) then i keep telling her i have to go and she says to wait its important..then she tells me my dad has colo-rectal cancer and his years as an alcoholic wore his immune system down so badly he probably wont live...wow such a big shock..lik ei said i didnt have a dad for about 16 of my 22 years9he was in and out all the time) and now hes going to die and ill lose him forever...so im going out there to visit him soon because i dont want it to end this way, not talking but yet...just needed to tell someone and i feel comfortable here...i just hope this is the end of bad news..
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Registered: 06-14-2006
Sat, 07-29-2006 - 8:27pm
hey girl, its laptop......so sorry to hear about your father.....I lost my dad this past February after his long fight with first colon cancer and then liver cancer......he drank pretty heavy too.....I suggest you find your way to see him and make peace with him, he is your dad and no one can ever replace that.....give him a chance to make peace with you too as it is probably his dying wish......when I saw my dad for the last time it was very hard to leave him, there were tears in his eyes- the only time I had ever seen him cry - and he died at the age of 78.. I loved him with all my heart, he was a really good father and he told me I needed to get my life together and be happy, leave the jerk and just be ME. When I returned home from the funeral the first night, I turned off my bedroom light and there in the pitch black was this white swirling haze - it was my dad, I am sure of it.....there have been many instances of him being here with me and HE is the guiding force in leaving my abusive relationship and getting my life on track. There have been so many strange happenings in my worst moments that show me he is there to give me strength, he loves me......your dad loves you too, let him show you before its too late, and let the IDIOT rot in jail, your father needs you now....Focus on that and your Ex will fade into the sunset.....take care