Is it okay to tell the banker the abuse?

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Registered: 12-11-2004
Is it okay to tell the banker the abuse?
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Tue, 02-22-2005 - 11:06pm
hi everyone, I am currently planning my escpape quitely and i wanted to close our 2 bank accounts that are in both our names. But when i go to the banker i would like to tell him that im trying to do this without hubby finding out, because of the abuse. Im just gonna tell hubby i wanted to open a different account to save money on fees. So i was gonna close our accounts and open one in his name and a different one for me, just in my name. I wanted to do it before i left so i didnt have to deal with hubby after i left, i do not want my name on his account. But how can i tell the banker everything without telling him my life story, and is it even wise to tell the banker whats happening, i have no idea. Also i would like to take my name of the mortgage and stuff, maybe i should wait till i move out, than the banker can just phone hubby and tell him he has papers to sign. Again i would have to tell banker whats going on.....im so confused, i just dont know how much info a banker guy should know.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 11:51pm

The rule with telling people about abuse is this:

CL-Blueliner4

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-24-2004
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 12:40am
If the accounts are in both your names, you can withdraw the money out and start your own individual account.
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Registered: 01-12-2001
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 10:26am

My ex had a way of of punishing me this way. He would close our joint checking account which included ATM. He would open it up again when we made up. I got tired of this and this is when I got my own account. I lived this way for 30 years. I left my first ex by going to our bank and took out half and went back to my parents. Just as long as you take half ( or full amount, but then you have to pay half back). I don't know what laws state now but I figured it is half mine. Take care and be safe.

Luv, Sherry

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Registered: 12-11-2004
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 1:46pm
thank you for replying. Last night i told hubby i wanted to close our accounts and open a new one, just because of the fees we pay. He thought nothing of it, as which i thought. So iwill just go into the bank by myself and close our 2 accounts, open one in his name and one in mine, than hubby can go in and sign papers, the thing is he a abit of dyselxia, so he wont really see that my name is not on his account, and he will just think nothing of it, i feel bad for doing this, but it has to be done, ill just tell the banker what is going on and im sure he will understand, i hope.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 1:53pm

Ask for the manager when you go in.

CL-Blueliner4