It will be over soon..Any advice?

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Registered: 08-10-2004
It will be over soon..Any advice?
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Wed, 08-11-2004 - 6:15pm
Well, a few of you confirmed my thoughts that my husband was being mentally adn verbally abusive. I kept thinking that I should hang on and help him out but after looking into this sort of abuse I woke up and realized that it was happening to me. I have decided to leave my husband and planon taking a few days to get my life together before I tell him.

I've told my parents who are going to look into a lawyer etc. Thank goodness I have their support since I can barely think straight right now.

Do any of you have any advice on how I should handle the begiing of a divorce and/or breaking the news to my husband?

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 08-11-2004 - 7:34pm

Yes, I do.


Don't tell him.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 08-10-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 8:21am
I had thought about just up and leaving but I am afraid that this will make him angry and he will make our divorce a mess! Is this really the route I should go? I do not want to piss him off to much because he is an immigrant with family in another country and we have a child together. Although, I do not think he would kidnap, I never thought he would be such a nasty man.

Thanks for your words of encouragement. I know it is going to be hard. I feel strong but he does have a way of squashing my resolve with his sad looks and promises. The worst is when he says I am not being fair for taking his child away from him. ugh! When I think about it rationally I know it is his fault not mine but when he says it I feel so guilty!

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 1:00pm

Well, he's probably going to muck it up no matter what you do, but as long as you tell the truth, stay consistent, and let him hang himself (they all do), you'll be fine.

CL-Blueliner4