I've done the right thing, right?

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Registered: 10-31-2004
I've done the right thing, right?
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Wed, 01-12-2005 - 9:56am

I've been married for almost 9 years. 3 kids (one from a previous relationship) work full time. I've got a husband who loses his temper quite a bit. Mostly verbal. Tuesday night he crossed the line. I came home to find my 7 yr old's head had been banged into the wooden kitchen table and a plastic spatula was broken over his head. His forehead was still swollen yesterday and has bumps and a cut on top of his head.

I've kicked the father out. Filed a report with the police, child protective services is involved and I'm going today to get a protective order.

I've done the right things right? I need to protect my children. No matter how much he begs me to come home, he isn't. No matter what guilt he lays on me, it isn't going to work.

I guess I just really needed to vent and get this out to somebody who understands. I will not have my children scared to go to sleep at night any longer.

Thanks for listening.

PTC

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 01-12-2005 - 2:20pm

Hoo-wee!

CL-Blueliner4

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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 1:35am
You did the right thing. It might be hard but there is no reason for him to take anything out on a small child. I've got a 7 year-old and they can get irritating at times but I'd never hit one I won't let her 9 year-old brother do that. Way to go. Good job. You did the 100% right thing and your kids will thank you too. Maybe not now but probally so and the so will later. Who cares if he is sorry what gave him a right to do that. Thankyou dear you are a wonderful mother. HUGS and Prayers to you and your children.>Jo
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Registered: 07-19-2004
Fri, 01-14-2005 - 10:42pm
I read this & instantly thought "OMG, that's unreal."
Yes, you did the right thing. This guy sounds really dangerous! I don't want to scare you, but I don't think you are out of danger just by kicking him out. If he's begging you to come back & you won't cave, he might become more violent. I would look into finding a safe place to go or someone (like a strong man, lol) to stay with you in case he comes around your place. Be careful! You did the right thing, but I dont' think it's over & you'll have to stay strong.
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Mon, 01-17-2005 - 11:15am

Thanks for all your replies. I did end up leaving the house for the weekend. Stayed with my parents. I'm very nervous about going to court on Wed for the final protective order but know it has to be done. Again thanks for your thoughts and prayers.

PTC

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Wed, 01-19-2005 - 11:27am

You're right. Things are not over by a long shot. Got the final protective order in place today and after court they arrested him. I know he'll be out on bail soon. Getting the locks changed today so he can't even attempt to make it into the house if he decides to be stupid enough to break the order.

I'm scared but know in my heart I did do the right thing. He is still unable to have any contact with me or the kids until he has proven he has seeked substantial professional help. Doubtful we'll be seeing him for quite some time.