Just a question................
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Just a question................
| Sat, 01-01-2005 - 8:30am |
Why is it that when you feel like you have your head screwed on straight(for once) and know that you want to leave the chaos, they always screw up your thoughts and make you second guess everything? Either by making you feel guilty or by saying all the right things.

Because men are crazy, selfish, pigs! LOL Ahem, no in all seriousness, the men I have been with have all been abusive, but I do have friends that have wonderful men, so there is hope!
Back to your question: I think that is their thought process... their security. They are controlling. Sometimes they will try to be nice, and ya feel bad and hope it will work.... If their "niceness" doesn't work then the guilt kicks in.... not necessarily in that order. Sometimes it's the guilt first, followed by the niceness.
They panic if they know that you may want to leave. When they are contolling that's where they will try anything to get you to stay, or feel bad.
I hope that made sense, I didn't get enough sleep last night.
Hugs, Michelle