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|Fri, 04-22-2011 - 1:43pm|
Met RO clinic at DA shelter..he said same thing - right now there isn't a lot to get him thrown out. Asked me to assert myself and this is a risk, but unfortunately, something I need to do. Says keep a stand as far as you can, if HE breaks anything in house or throws anything at you, call police immediately who will supply with an EPO. Then they can file an RO to get him out. Says it has to be there for "physical" danger. Vague threats or yelling is not enough. This is the legal rep who works with local court at the local shelter. The guy does this everyday..so I do believe him. It is almost like he is telling me to put a stand to make him "flip" else these things get overturned at court every day. Sad but true. He did say he understands this is not the way to live and he wants me to not get submissive but assert more and see what happens.
In the meantime, I realize I am too tied to the house in terms of my pets and dd..I can't bear leaving either behind..pets are not even allowed in most apartment or charged a lot of money. so I am like - maybe I need to ask for exclusive occupancy and either ask to SELL house (so i can buy something smaller) or let him be ordered to pay CS and SS which will cover the mortgage as well..untill house is sold..Whether it turns out that he moves back in or not, at least I will have a few weeks period to dwell on this instead of me seeking out a new place and doing this all over again AND then NOT leaving..
let me know any thoughts..thanks again.