Just saying hello

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Just saying hello
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Sun, 10-09-2005 - 5:44pm
Hi - just wanted to pop in and say hello. You have been to my board about website and graphics, so I am coming to your board. My dd was a victim of abuse by her boyfriend last week - she came home from college for a week but decided she needed to go back. She seems to be doing well, and he has not tryed to contact her for a week, but as a mother I still worry. She is a very kind hearted person who seems to try and help the less fortunate, unfortunately this time it turned violent! Just needed to vent!


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In reply to: tigwy
Sun, 10-09-2005 - 6:03pm

Hey girl!

5yrssm 
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Registered: 03-21-2003
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Mon, 10-10-2005 - 10:50am
Thanks for the welcome! She was only hit once and has stopped contact with him, this has been 2 weeks ago, so I hope it continues. Thank you for all the info - I have been to the website and I read your link you listed. Your info has calmed my nerves some! And your new graphic in your sig is cool - hows the scavenger hunt going? Forgot to take off my cl hat - sorry!


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Mon, 10-10-2005 - 5:54pm

No worries about your hat, you can keep it on here since I know you :-)


I think the scavenger hunt is going well.

5yrssm 
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Registered: 10-06-2005
In reply to: tigwy
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 10:46am
Hi, I am new here myself. What worries me about your dd is that you said she was a kind person who seemed to reach out to the less fortunate. Of course, that IS a wondeful quality but IMO, it seems as though abusers use that trait to manipulate and get what they want from their victims. I am afraid that if he is appologetic and seemingly sincere she will feel bad for "hurting him" and go back to him. At least that has been the case with me and my df. Just wanted to give you a heads up.
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Fri, 10-14-2005 - 11:11pm
Thanks for the heads up! Well, she got really depressed, couldn't do her school work, I was really worried about her sanity, so she is home and getting out of school. Yes, she had talked to him, he wanted to get back together, she said no way. Now she is 3 hours awasy from him, headed for counseling on Mon. or Tues. - I will keep you updated. I at least am feeling better that she is home where she is safe, but sad that she is not continuing her education - hopefully in time, she will decide what to do with her life.


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Sat, 10-15-2005 - 9:22am
Oh my I had a gut feeling he would be in contact with her, that's what abusers do.
5yrssm 
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Registered: 10-06-2005
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Tue, 10-18-2005 - 10:39am
If you can--get her to post over here. I feel that I have a similar experience--I know what it is like to feel completely insane and want to drop outta college. Education is the one thing they cannot take from you. I think she should re think her decision. It would also be good for her self esteem to be back in school. I agree that I am GLAD that she is with you at home and safe.
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Tue, 10-18-2005 - 11:30am
I will try to get her to post - I don't know if she is ready yet. She may go back to school in the future, but I don't think her mind will be changed now. We just went and with drew her yesterday. I think once she gets into some counseling it may help her see what is important. Thank you for your concern.


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Wed, 10-26-2005 - 1:19pm
Update on my dd - she has started counseling and is thinking about going to Massage Therapy School in Jan. She seems to be doing better and better as time goes on!


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