Just some advice from a veteran

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Registered: 03-11-2005
Just some advice from a veteran
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Thu, 05-19-2005 - 9:38pm

I've been posting on here now for about a week, I think.

I just wanted to say something to the women or men who come here who are being abused by their partners, and have children.

Please get out as soon as you can.

I had five children, with my EX DH who abused me for 12 years. I kept taking him back when I'd kick him out. My son, who is 13, was adopted by his foster treatment parents, because he could NEVER come home. He saw all the things that his father did to me, and it messed him up! He sexually molested my twin daughters, he had a very violent temper. Tried to stab my older girls and my best friend with a knife.

My oldest daughter, Jennifer, who is 18, was in a very emotionally and verbally relationship. He broke it off with her back in December. Which left her broken hearted. I was relieved. But now.. He's after her again. I've tried talking to her about how bad he treated her and know what her response is?
"I DON'T CARE, I love him". Where do you think she got that example from? ME!!!

Just like your children will learn by example set by you.

GET OUT of your abusive relationships now. Before your children, have problems like mine. :(

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2005
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 10:06pm
I know it's difficult to share these kinds of stories or any type of story regarding abuse on here and
5yrssm 
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Registered: 12-16-1997
Fri, 05-20-2005 - 11:13am

ITA.

As another veteran, I've shared on these boards some of what I went through during my former abusive marriage. Although I suffered much because of my XH, I wanted so much to stay for the sake of my three former DSDs. However, my XH's disrespect, mistreatment and abuse towards me negatively affected the girls and they *tried* to treat me the same as well. I was NOT going to stay and take that from him AND the girls too!

God provided a way of escape for me and I gladly took it. I have not spent one day since regretting that decision. It was the best one I could've ever made.

To those who are currently in an abusive marriage, relationship or environment:

GET OUT AS SOON AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN.

I'm sure glad I did and now life is so much sweeter!

And Freedom? It tastes GOOD!!!

All the best,
Heymum