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Just when i think
| Mon, 02-14-2005 - 5:00pm |
Just when i start to get comfotable things go BAM! I am sorry for not posting for awhile but things were going so well and it just seemd like right when i get comfortable and i think god life is great! He is back at it again. Saturday he slept all day no big deal he didn't feel well. Well a couple weeks before that he gave me $120 to buy new clothes, well on thursday we went to sams club and they had shoes ther so i got new shoes told him I would give him the $25 for them because i had money left over, we just put the shoes on my credit account at Sams. So then I just figured that it would be OK to my some more pants for wotj with the 25 I still had. Anyway Saturday out of the blue he says "So whaen do you plan on giving me that money for the shoes". And I said "Oh i just assumed you didn't want it because we put it on the charge card". " I can't ever trust you with money, here you go lying once again"! I was dumbfounded because that whole day was nice because he slept and I even laid down with him for an hour so I was shocked with his behavior! Then the degrading starts and of course I start crying because it has been awhile since he has said such awful things to me. Told me I had to quit my sniffiling and feeling sorry for myself. Then he said he was suprised that i haven't tried killing myself and so on. I am just still so shocked I don't understand him. I also think he is smoking Marjuana again but can't prove it or tell if he is. So Sunday I am gone all day and as soon as I get home he says "I have to go I will be back later". He was going to go work on a friends computer or something. He called at 5:50 pm said I am done with the computer I am just going to sit here for a little bit and talk with his friend. No big deal I was doing homework anyway. I went to bed at 9 he still wasn't home. Heard him come in at 11 pm! I woke up this morning to a nice bouquet of flowers! I call him later today and he is kind of rude! I just don't get it! Thanks for letting me vent

Oh, you'll know if he's smoking out again.
CL-Blueliner4
You are feel free to come here and vent anytime hun!
Hi
i can't add anything but the good advice of the other posters. When I read your message, it id make me feel annoyed (not at you...) but the classic "I can degrade her when i so choose, then BUY her back with flowers" attitude you described.
Take care of yourself xx
Anyway, I never spent money on myself just for the family and the house. I was a very good wife, I did everything inside the house and every thing out side (two jobs). If I billed him for 25 years of services he couldn't afford back pay. One thing I would like to pass on is that you would be surprised if you start going to yard sales, coupons (use at store, pay bill and then put what you saved in bank account. I started this from the beginning because I never knew when I would be kicked out of my house with no money. I did this for 4 yrs and saved $6,000 without him finding out and when he did he said I stole from him, go figure.) Anyway, I have gone to swap meets and yard sales (nice areas) and over the last 30 years have everything second hand. For example, need appliances, have them all but not from stores. How about a electric opener for wine, 1 buck. Anyway, when I moved last year I took everything and if I don't mind saying myself I made I nice place for myself. The money issue was the end. I was given an allowance and told how I could spend it. After putting up with all his c..., abuse, violent rages, name calling, holes in the houses, towards me I left and don't think I have yet woken up. Depression is something to watch out for and panic attacks. Hey, you are probably wonder where this is all coming from, I know I am. I hope some of this helps because it sure has for me. Let you go, take care and don't give up nor give in........Luv.,.....Sherry