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just wondering
| Sat, 06-18-2005 - 11:23pm |
If some one posts something here, and they post that they have done something really dangerous, I don't think it helps the person in the long run not to say something to them.In my opinion, there is a way to say that some one has done something dangerous without attacking the person. Sometimes when I have an issue that is really confusing me, I would rather post it on a debate board, because there it seems like the feedback is more real and more honest, even if it is a bit rougher, it forces me to really think things out. Sometimes I feel the support boards are too syrupy and too limiting-and I think that actually does a disservice to certain people. Although they can be very informative, like the boards that deal with specific health issues have a lot of great info.

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Hi Rayny -
I'm so happy that you are finding boards that suit your needs well - debate boards can frequently be intimidating to new members because of the style of the support and advice that is offered on them, but I've found that the undying loyalty among regular members of a debate board is very fulfilling and as strong as the bonds forged on support boards. It's just a different "flavor" of support!
Luckily, we have a wide variety of board styles so members can seek out the board that appeals to them and their needs. We find that it's important to maintain a distinction between support boards and debate boards as a way to help members anticipate the replies they will receive and as a way for members to know what is expected in their responses.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, but there are ways to say it that don't come across in an unkind manner.
CL-Blueliner4
Please go back and re-read my post.
CL-Blueliner4
Rayny
No offense, but you got blue in an uproar here. This is a sacred place where people heal and finally have the opportunity not to defend theirselves. Apparently you are healed enough and need to go on your way.
If you truly know abuse and how it destroys you, you would be playing what you think are discussions here. This place is for people that need to be able to spar with the best, but someone took that away from them.
At one time, when my defenses were in high keel, I thought I knew what was going on. It was denial. And when I quit defending and trying to justify myself, i learned.
So maybe, just have a seat and join us on our level
Terry
Hi Rayny,
Now you got wish upset...geez. This board isn't about defending ourselves, it's about finding who we really are and what we love. I don't care that blue smokes cigars and wish has to iron all her clothes. What we care about here is the real person...the person that you could cuddle up with and have a glass of wine or a bowl of ice cream together while watching "The Sound of Music" or whatever. Everyone see the world in their own eyes, but here you have the privilege of understanding your life and make it work for you. We all have our own lives and many come from different parts of this wonderful world. You are just a small piece of it. That's why we love it. Like it or not, we can just delete you or you can join us....your choice. We would really like you to join us though.
Thank you Cam, you're a doll.
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