Laws don't protect women

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Laws don't protect women
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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 11:12am

I believe there are some instances where a woman who is repeatedly beaten and attacked, she should have the right to shoot and kill her abuser.

sweets35
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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 3:34pm
I thought this way too till a few years ago. I realized if he died his pain ends but his victims will feel pain for life. I want him to lead a miserable life. But i understand not feeling safe while they are alive

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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 3:46pm

Everyone one says get a PFA...but it has to be served and since his address is mine..I would serve him

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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 3:56pm

Women in the U.S. who are beaten aren't treated well at all by authorities.

sweets35
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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 4:15pm
I guess you are right. It would go against the commandment of the bible "thou shall not murder." (Even though it would be in self-defense.)

God has a plan for each and every one of us, even though he seems to be getting away with it and living the high life right now without a care in the world. His time will come.
sweets35
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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 4:25pm

You're probably home now, don't be afraid, watch a good movie, take a hot bath, read a good book.

sweets35
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Fri, 03-23-2012 - 10:53am

Thanks yes, last nite I was nervous and gittery.

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Tue, 03-27-2012 - 9:15am

Ohhh Sweets, I feel exactly the same way you do sometimes.

Mama Harmony

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Tue, 03-27-2012 - 1:39pm
when i left my abuser the children and i went to a dv shelter. Someone was watching wrestling and it gave me the idea that u could make all my problems go away if u could have a baseball bat, a steel cage, and him for 60 seconds. Some times i still think that woukf be a good idea but with my luck i would feel bad afterwards.

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Tue, 03-27-2012 - 4:59pm

isn't there a battered women's defense? Yes, a women would do jail time but would get out sooner in parole.
Yes, I can see you are feeling angry that is good. But in truth, we have to abide by the law..we live in a civilized society. I do believe the courts should get back to traditional custody and more awareness of abuse rather than giving everyone a benefit of doubt. The law has failed in that regard..it still is ..unless you show me bruises and blood, you are fine.

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Sat, 03-31-2012 - 10:20am

I remember a few years back, where that prick beat me up pretty bad...most of it was constant punches to my head, pulling my hair..but god, did he pound and pound and pound my head. My teen son was asleep in his room and that coward piece of crap kept telling me how me was going to go pull him from his sleep and kill him...and we were in my room and I did my best to keep it quiet..he was sooooo drunk..and he finally stopped and was just laying there..and I stood up, saw the iron and I was going to beat him to death with it. I really was..but I didn't want to go to jail and leave my kids. I finally got him out of my house. I never called the police (I regret that to this day). It was the last serious assault..well physical anyway. God knows what would've happened if my son hadn't been home.

And it still wasn't the last straw. And he cried so much the next day when he saw me, the swell of my head. I hate myself for not getting him for assault, leaving and never looking back and not being in another place today, but I am trying. I can't regret too much before 11/14/09 because I do love love love the daughter he 'planted', if you will. So, I just regret no leaving him when he went to jail for hitting me while pregnant w/ her..and getting the charges pretty much dropped...he was just violated on a technical...Speaking of VOP, he is in jail for one. will find out Tues if he gets jail time for it, and for how long...And when I conquer this illness/addiction, I do believe I'm going to share my story and I'm going to get involved...I don't know what exactly..but awareness is severely lacking and I think I am going to stand up.

I'm glad we have this board and sweets posted this and we didn't have some 'radical' going nuts about it. I'm glad we get each other.