Leaving after a long time

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Registered: 03-15-2011
Leaving after a long time
Sun, 09-11-2011 - 1:05pm

IM leaving after 26 years married.....27 years with him

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Registered: 02-28-2001
Sun, 09-11-2011 - 1:29pm
Best wishes, prayers and positive thoughts as you begin this journey to your new life, free from abuse. Please contact the domestic abuse agency/shelter in your area and inquire about counseling and support groups. They are both great ways of helping you cope with all the changes and upheaval. They will also get you in touch with other survivors who can share the good and hard times with you, with complete understanding. Most important of all, rebuild your life the way YOU want it to be. Don't believe for a second that you're too old, too "whatever" to start anew. Rejoice and celebrate your new life. Keep us posted. Just because you're leaving him doesn't mean you don't still belong here. My best to you. Godspeed.

Mama Harmony

Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Sun, 09-11-2011 - 2:27pm


I have left and/or gotten out.

Was not in it for as long as you but it is hard no matter the length but you can do it.

Kudos to you.

It takes courage and determination to do this.

You are ready and applaud you.

Others cannot tell you to leave this is something you have decided is the best choice for you.

My heart goes out to you.

You can do it, you can do this.

It is a NEW Beginning for you.

Do you have support from others, your family and friends?

You have support here.

I wish you the very best.

Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Sun, 09-11-2011 - 2:31pm

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Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Sun, 09-11-2011 - 2:49pm

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Registered: 01-04-2000
Sun, 09-11-2011 - 3:35pm

I left my husband on January 1, 2011...last August was our 30th wedding anniversary. I am coping by focusing on one day at a time. When I get that "Oh it was not all that bad" syndrome I look at where we are and remember why we are here...Yes it was that bad.

I was going to school working on my Masters in Counseling so I had friends around to support me and encourage me, my family (mom, dad, sister and brother) are supportive of my choices and my kids...well my kids were the one begging me to "lets just leave and figure out the money part later"....

I give my permission to have a treat all to myself once a week (something not allowed before) even if it is nothing more than an hot chocolate from McDonalds.

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Fri, 09-16-2011 - 9:31am

I hope you will continue to check in and let us know how you're doing.