Left 4 weeks ago-He's still bothering me
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| Fri, 09-17-2004 - 12:32pm |
He won't stop his attempt to make things work. He is now saying that I have given up, that I am the one who is ruining our sons cahnce at having a family. That I will regret my decision in the future. He believes that someone is making me do this and that my family is against him. That we want to bring down the 'lowly immigrant' I have told him over and over that I am too hurt. That I am proud of his attempt to figure out what is wrong with him BUT I have been hurt and lost all trust and love. I ahve told him outright that I DO NOT love him. Yet he continues to buy me flowers and act as though we are going to get back together. He tells me that I am doing this for revenge to nurture my ego. Where does this guy get off!!!
Should I just not talk to him anyore except about our son? Should I write down in a letter that it is over ...no chances in the lifetime? HELP!!!

I can relate sort-of.
He'll say anything to make you think he's changed. He'll play the part of "a changed and better man" until you give in. Then some time will pass and you'll be stuck (yes I said stuck) with the same person you were stuck with before. My STBX has said many of these same things that you list that your H has said. You can break free - you are capable.
The thing with abusers is that they DO NOT change.