Little update

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Registered: 05-19-2004
Little update
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Wed, 07-28-2004 - 11:31am
Tonight I am going to sit him down and TRY to rationally talk with him about all of the problems. I am sure this will be difficult seeing that he is very unreasonable about everything. I hope that he will sit there and listen to me and put aside all of his preconceptions about our whole situation. I know that there has got to be some way to make him understand how wrong he is in his thinking. Surely deep down he must really not think that I want someone else or dress for someone else. I mean really, come on.

I know he knows that the way he pushes and shoves me is wrong, but he thinks his reasons are right and that I push him to it. I'm going to tell him that he has got to lighten up on my clothes and understand that I do not want another man, especially no one at my work. And also that every man at my work does not talk or flirt with me all day long. That he needs to never ever touch me in a violent way again and also needs some counseling for his stress and obvious depression about our financial situation.

If I see that he is not open to any of this I am telling him that the kids and I will be moving out next week. The lease I have to sign is for a year and that's it. There's no point in wasting any more of his time or mine with something that is obviously over.

I will let you know how it goes tommorrow. Thanks to all for the advice ! It really helped.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: tma7910
Wed, 07-28-2004 - 12:49pm

I like the attitude you have in regards to the "discussion".

CL-Blueliner4