A little worried

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Registered: 12-01-2005
A little worried
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Wed, 01-11-2006 - 9:15pm

Hi all,

It's been a while since I've been here...things had kind of settled down with my ex after I got my stuff out of the house. Recently, I had to mail him a copy of the car title that I got changed so he wasn't on it. A few days later, I got an email from him that quoted old emails that I had sent him long before I left. It was only one sentence, but it made it clear that he is still living in the past and is trying to "get to me."

Yesterday, I received a package in the mail from him (didn't know it until I looked at the packing slip inside of it) that was a book about how we sabotage our relationships...I think it's called "He's Scared, She's Scared.." or something like that. Anyway, one of the chapters is called "victims and nice guys"--as in me "playing" the victim and him being the "nice guy." Right...the guy that raped me multiple times and assaulted me over 1,000 times. I was starting to feel safe again, but now I'm not so sure I should. He's found me at my parents' house...but I will be moving at the end of this week. I never got a restraining order and am wondering if that was a mistake. What do you all think? This has freaked me out...made me start to shake, etc. when I opened the package.

Any comments, suggestions, etc???

Thanks,
flipper

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 3:30pm
I have no experience with restraining orders, but given your history, I would think you could still get one. I would do so ASAP.
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Registered: 09-29-2005
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 7:28pm

ITA with adryl - go now for the RO.

 

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 01-14-2006 - 2:08am
RO !!!
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