Losing my mind!!!!!!!
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Losing my mind!!!!!!!
| Thu, 05-19-2005 - 4:48pm |
I am sooooo mad right now!!!!! I'm so mad that I am a sobbing mess, and I have to go get my kids soon, I hate being in public after crying! STBX was supposed to give me child support on Friday of last week. He got paid on Thursday and I haven't gotten it yet. We've been seperated since mid-March and he has paid CS ONE time, that's it (supposed to be 2x a month!). I called him this morning and told him to come by and deposit it (I work at the bank) before 2pm. This was at 10am, he didn' have to be at work until noon. Did he show up? NO!!! My car insurance is due, plus another bill. He also owes me for his half of insurance for this and last month and a credit card payment. He says he cannot afford all of that right now. WHAT?!?!?! I still have the password for the online part of his account and he blew $200 on new speakers for his truck, $100 on a new cell phone and $40 on a nice steakhouse in town. He's gone out to eat everyday for the last month. He make 3x what I do (more since my hours are being cut b/c of preeclampsia symptoms). He pays $150/month in rent and utilities, has his cell phone bill and THAT'S IT!!! I pay six times that on rent alone!!!! Not to mention utiliites, including internet b/c I have to have it since I take online classes. We are going to mediation tomorrow afternoon to try to come up with a seperation agreement. I've presented several, more than fair, options to him and he refuses to sign any of them b/c he thinks I want to much (PLEASE!!!!!). He now just told me on the phone that I owe him $50 for some concert tickets that I sold for $100. I had to pay overnight shipping on them and the ebay fees plus all the time and hassle involved in trying to sell two concert tickets at the last minute! He also said he's not signing ANYTHING. AAAARRRGGGHHHH!!!!! What do I do if he won't sign anything? I just want to make sure that he's not going to come to the house and take anything and that he pays his child support and sticks to a schedule with visitation so that the boys have some stability, that's all!


Yeah, no food? Well tell him to RETURN all his little TOYS he bought. & i would tell him he has ONE WEEK to pay you what he owes you or you are getting your OWN car insuracne policy & he is coming OFF the one you have. Maybe that will get him to move? I cant BELEIVE he has 2 kids & one on the way & he makes the money he does & pays the rent he does, & he is doing this to you. The only thing i CAN say is that it certainly shows you that you HAVE done the right thing by getting away from a selfish chidish vengeful person. & as for your mom ... can ya just NOT talk to her about it? There is no excuse for telling you "i told you so". Errrr!
(((HUGS))) & prayers!
Hi Samantha,
*sigh* Boy oh boy, do I know how you feel.
I was in an abusive relationship for 12 years until I divorced him. Twice he didn't pay me child support and me and the children *i had five then* became evicted TWICE. This last time, I ended up placing my children in foster care voluntarily. He blamed me for that, but he didn't want to pay me child support!!! '
I am so sorry that you and the boys have to go through this.
I agree with everyone else. I'd report to the judge or an attorney what he did with that money. And if he does'nt have any thing to eat? Oh well... Maybe he should've thought about that, before he went and spent all that money on speakers,a cell phone, etc. ERRRRR! He makes me so mad!!!
Guys like that should be castrated.
Sorry...
Lori
Anyway, you are pregnant, TAKE IT EASY! Please try to find people who can help you out in your predicament. Sometimes it seems impossible, because the state requires you to live under nearly impossible conditions before you can get help from them, and then if you do receive it, it is not nearly as much as you need. There are people who have to work part-time on the books and part-time off at a different job so they could still receive legal assistance and live under the minimum wage required of them. (At least the mimimum wage that comes from being on the books). That's not what I suggest you do, but there are people who do that.
I wish I could help you with all the legalities as to what to do when your x does not come up with his end of the bargain, but I'm sure you have a place to turn to if that happens.
Meanwhile, take it easy. I just read your last post about acing the exams, and MORE POWER TO YOU! G-D is with you. Please take it one day at a time, until the contact with your x will be nothing more than just a minor irritant, which I'm sure it will come to one day. I wish you luck and comfort.
Ok just read your post and
AAAAAARRRRRRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH!
He needs a severe kicking. How dare he do this to you! Well, what goes around comes around. In the meantime, please print that online statement and feel free to use it against him.
Yep, castration springs to mind here.
Hugs