at a loss

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Registered: 06-15-2004
at a loss
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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 1:00am
my ex husbands girlfriend called the other day. Because i called and left a message stating for him not to call his son drunk again because he lied and upset him. She clled and started asking questions about mine and his relationship. And i told her the truth. i wasn't going to lie to her. She was all upset because he got drunk and started a huge fight and i told her that was how he has always been. They have a new born son now. And she seemed really concerned. I told her to be careful and that no matter what the babies saftey should come first and she agreed and said that she had left that night but had come backthe next morning. Other people had also warned her about him also.

Well he found out we had talked because she forgot to erase her cell phone numbers that she called and he saw my number. ANd called and told me i had no right talk to her and that if she called again to not talk to her. I told him I could talk to anyone i wanted and that he no right to call and tell me who i can and can't talk to. And not to call me again. the next morning I called and had my number changed.

How the hell does he think he is calling and jumping down my throat. What is he so scared of. THat she might beleave me and get smart and leave to. She was the one who called me amndstarted asking questions. I couldn't in good faith lie to her and say nothing. Their baby is innocent I don't want that baby to go through what my kids did it isn't fair.

I am just so angry at him for invading not only her privacy but also mine. its bull crap that he still thinks he has that control over me still he doesn't realize that i'm alot more stronger and i'm not just going to set back and take his crap anymore.

he called my mom saying he needed my new number to get a hold of me because i had changed it. she told him if I had wanted him to have it I'd have called and given it to him. God he needs to get a clue. I'm not going to let him hurt my kids anymore they have suffered so much because of him.

Okay I'm done ranting now I feel a little bit better now. I just hope I did the right thing.

HUGS,

Christy

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Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: smileytot
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 1:05pm

Hey Smiley -


You did what you had to do.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 05-23-2004
In reply to: smileytot
Fri, 09-10-2004 - 4:53am
Good for you!!!

I've always DREAMED of having that kind of conversation with my ex's girlfriend, but I never did, for fear of unnecessary back lash. But in your case, she asked, and you had every right and every reason. I never had such the opportunity. My ex pretty much squashed that, by starting lies saying I said things about her.

Me and my ex have a child together, and would see her when doing the kid drop off. One day, she became extremely standoffish, and I just blew it off.

Since then, (long story) my ex has no rights to his child, and I found out that she started the legal proceedings to terminate rights to my ex child as well. I guess she found out without me having to tell her.

But boy, did I so want to!!!!!