man needs help with a problem

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Registered: 01-15-2006
man needs help with a problem
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Sun, 01-15-2006 - 7:35pm

Edited 1/17/2006 1:47 am ET by fool_25




Edited 1/17/2006 2:03 am ET by fool_25
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Registered: 10-05-2004
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 10:31pm

You can't convince her of anything. All you can do is change- and REALLY change, not just do things that you think will please her. If she then chooses to take you back, that is her choice, but it is also your duty to accept that she may not and accept her decision if she doesn't. If you really care about her, the best way to show it is to work on yourself, accept that what you did was wrong, understand WHY it was wrong, and understand that there are no excuses. None, no bad childhood, no mental illness, nothing. Many people have those obstacles and still don't abuse.

Frankly, I think you're about out of luck, and the best thing you can do is work on yourself so that you don't do it again. You are lucky not to be in jail, if you physically assaulted her. This is probably not what you wanted to hear, but I'm not in the business of that.

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Registered: 09-29-2005
Mon, 01-16-2006 - 10:11am

This community absolutely does not give advice to abusers on how to get their victims back.

 

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Mon, 01-16-2006 - 4:46pm

Fool_25......


As being one of the former CL's for this board, this isn't the first time I have seen an abuser come onto this board with their story.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 01-16-2006 - 8:14pm

I am in agreement with the others.

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