Manipulation? dd lied to STBX today ...
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Manipulation? dd lied to STBX today ...
| Mon, 07-11-2005 - 8:10pm |
I am pretty aggravated about it- its not like its not bad ENOUGH w/o her saying something that isnt true. She doesnt know i know, MIL told me.


You are totally right i think. Many women on my Divorce boards have said that to - i will cut & paste what i posted back - THANKS!
I had the same problem with my three older children when I divorced their father. He would call me up at work and rage about things that the kids said that were not true. The telephone calls were a BIG one. I was very much like you - always encouraging them to call and reminding them of his birthdays and other occassions. Then to have it all thrown in my face. So I solved it once and for all. I got another phone line put into the house. I put it in the family room in which the children spent a lot of time. It was just a basic line - no frills! It cost me $20.00 a month and the kids could call their dad when they wanted and he called when he wanted. I stayed out of it. I never answered the phone - I would call the kids and say "your phone is ringing" - after awhile, this had an additional bonus - as they became older, their friends would call that line and I was never in the middle.
When we got divorced, the kids were 9, 7, and 5. (Gosh, that was a heck of a long time ago - they are 24,22,and 20 now! Yikes, and I'm doing it all again). I digress....
This solution worked amazingly well for us and it put the onus on HIM to call, rather then the extra stress of me reminding and prodding all the time. My ex wouldn't call our house either for the same reason that your ex said. He also wouldn't park in our driveway when he picked up the kids. He would pull in backwards or park on the road. Weird.
That is a good idea. She is just 5, so it may be not a good time yet, but maybe it would work