May as well do this now

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Registered: 07-14-2003
May as well do this now
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Tue, 07-05-2011 - 6:08pm

Because I think I may forget over the next week and a half.

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Registered: 04-19-2011
Tue, 07-05-2011 - 9:53pm

Thank you, thank you. I can't tell you the number of times I have thought "will this ever be out of my mind". Granted, I am still going through the divorce issues and I know I will go on. But, to hear someone say that eventually it isn't in the forefront of my mind. I know we all have to go through the emotions and stages at our own time, but it is nice to hear.

I am sure you worked hard at moving on. You give us inspiration and guidance with your post.

Thank you.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-05-2011 - 11:05pm

One way to help forget that crap is to replace the bad dates with good memories. I just realized as I read gonna's post that today is normally a trigger date for me. Not once till now did I think about what happened July 5th six years ago. I was remembering what I was doing on this day last year =). Ok so that thought was not the happiest for other reasons but it feels good to have not reconized a date!! Six years ago my children and I moved into a womens shelter and it was one o the hardest things I have done. This date has been one of the harder ones for me to deal with and normally for at least a week before I am on edge but nothing and nothing now. I hope this happens next year too. I have replaced a couple of other triggers too and they havent come back. It takes time but its wonderful when it happens. Now to get over the new one that has popped up. GRRR! When I see 12:22 I feel strange, married the jerk on 12/22. But like I said this is a new one in the last week or so ..........


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-05-2011 - 11:14pm

My ex is a chameleon. He blends in well with whatever type of person you put him by. It is amazing that at one point I thought this was cute and now I know its not and I wonder if thats how he pulled me in.

I am happy for you that this is something you could forget. It gives me hope that me forgetting today could keep happening. Thank you for sharing with us.


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