*Maybe* he is coming to his senses ...

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Registered: 03-15-2004
*Maybe* he is coming to his senses ...
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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 4:05pm

but i am NOT couting my chickens!

STBX's

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 5:29pm
I think you're right to postpone the inventory of chickies, first of all. M shot himself in the foot a couple of times this week, didn't he? This penitence of his may well be a bandaid for his screwups. Keep yourself covered legally. The GAL is still a good idea. Keep us posted.
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Registered: 06-26-2004
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 6:40pm
Do you think he would sign a settlement agreement? You could always have a settlement agreement drawn up stating everything you want. The divorce will be done and over in less than 2 months. Have it say "sole custody" to you for Avery, that way she will visit him at YOUR discretion. Tell M you want Avery to see him, providing he is on his best behavior. If he is already at the point where he wants this "done and over with" he just might agree to that.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 8:54pm

**WARNING, BLUNT ANSWER COMING**


If he was tired of the lying and the fighting, he'd have the 'nads to fire his lawyer and get one that was ready to get a deal done, not screw you over.


Blunt done.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 08-24-2004
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 9:39pm
That's what I did with my divorce. If you can catch them in a "honeymoon" moment,like I caught my ex, he agreed to everything. Then when the honeymoon is over, and they go back to being their usual a**hole selves, the legal issues have been taken care of and finalized. They can still drag you through court, but like my ex, he found other things to do to be an a**hole, and now finally a year later he's moved onto a new victim,so he's focused on her and forgot all about me.
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Registered: 05-19-2002
Sun, 03-27-2005 - 12:15am
Have BIL get him to sign a statemment NOW admitting that he lied and that he did behave as you said in court.
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Registered: 06-26-2004
Sun, 03-27-2005 - 7:20am
That's what I would do in her situation. I would just tell him it's going to say sole custody no matter how long he drags this out and how much money they spend on the lawyers. I would have lawyer write up settlement stating everything I wanted, and try and get him to sign it. I think he would in this case. It seems like he is worried about how much money is going to be left over, etc. Like he wants to hurry up and get it done.
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Registered: 08-12-2004
Sun, 03-27-2005 - 10:10am

I don't have alot of time... but...

I can't say what I want to. I'm going to have to email you sometime. But I'll say this for now:

You are at war. You are not playing for the same team as your STBX. Your BIL has loyalties that lie with your STBX first. Please be careful about communicating with the people whose loyalties do not lie with you.

I would recommend highly highly highly that you have absolutely no contact with anyone related to STBX in ANY way, EXCEPT for your daughter.

I'm serious. If the BIL calls, let the machine get it.

But that's just my advice, and I'm sorry if it's blunt and I'm sorry if it offends you.

I gotta go - I have an obligation to get to. :)

I'll check back later.

Happy Easter, R. :)

Me

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sun, 03-27-2005 - 11:45am
I am not upset AT all.

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Registered: 03-25-2005
Sun, 03-27-2005 - 12:13pm

Didn't you say he was doing a regression program or seeing a counselor?? He may be feeling guilty right now and trying to make his little self feel better by throwing you a bone. Like everyone else said, just be careful! You know better than anyone what he is capable of. He's like a timebomb, you never know when he will blow again! Hugs!

BTW, there is nothing wrong with taking your time and doing this divorce the right way. I wouldn't be too hasty. Let the lawyers deal with it.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sun, 03-27-2005 - 8:24pm
Yes, he sure did!

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