maybe I'm over reacting.
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| Wed, 03-31-2004 - 10:52am |
Hitting me with the papers was an accident, although he was throwing them in my direction because he was mad at me. I have a gruesome looking huge bruise. He's acting like it's stupid for me to be mad about that, that he said he was sorry and that it was an accident, and that I should just let it go.
But the thing is, most of the time he is a very calm person, to the point of being too calm, a man of few words, patient with the kids. But then he lets it build up until he blows, and that's when he will do these things. It's only about once every couple of months, unless it's a stressful time, then it will be more often. But it's not like he is doing it all the time. And the punching my arm thing and holding me down only happened a few times, and we've been married 12 years.
He probably throws things once every couple of months, grabs dd roughly every couple of months, and yells at me extremely scarily about once every 6 months. He does have other issues about control, he does want to make all the decisions (and somehow no matter what my opinion is he always has the last say), he does try to dictate how I should speak to him. For example, he gets mad at me when I can't get my opinion across in few enough sentences for him, or if I don't understand what he is trying to explain to me even though he tried a couple times to explain it. And sometimes he gets mad if, for example, he says "I really like that house over there" and I say "Really? I don't really like it". He says "I didn't ask you for your opinion".
I'm starting to wonder if I'm making more out of this than I should, maybe because I'm unhappy in the marriage and I'm looking for ways to pick it apart. I need your opinions. Is this normal behavior? I keep imagining my dad doing these things and never in a million years would he, but then again my dad is an exceptionally easy going guy.
Help, I need some honest opinions here.

mel
Twins -
I made a second reply to your original post that I really think you need to see.
CL-Blueliner4
Jen