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| Sat, 10-15-2005 - 2:46pm |
As some of you know, I'm coparenting with an abusive ex husband. I just need a little insight with something. Most of the exchanges of the kids take place through their stepmother. She usually does all pickups/dropoffs, I try to have very little contact with ex. He showed up last night for the exchange cause his wife couldn't pick kids up last night.
The kids have been coming back with lice every single time they come back from his house. This has been going on a long time now. Every Monday I have to treat the kids hair. (he has them every weekend). I know for a fact that it's stepmom's kids that have the lice. Well, I started questioning him last night about it, I didn't raise my voice or anything. I just asked "do her kids still have lice?" He gets real defensive, and starts saying that I'm the one not doing anything about the lice problem. He implies that our oldest dd has the lice (right in front of her.) She starts crying, and says "no daddy, it's not me."
By this time there's alot of tension between him and I. Anytime there's tension between us, daughter (8) will stand right by his side and acts like she hates me. (Even after he accuses her of having lice and making her cry, she's on his side.) She refused to give me a hug after that, she generally shows no affection to me when he's around. This is the part I don't understand. Can anyone relate to this? When she feels the tension between us she acts like she hates me and doesn't want to go near me? She stands right there with him, glares at me, and refuses to show me any affection in front of him.
Is it me? Does she feel like I'm the one starting the conflict?
| Sat, 10-15-2005 - 3:12pm |
