Mediation
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| Fri, 05-19-2006 - 12:10pm |
I went to mediation yesterday. It is very interesting how things worked out. I was afraid I would be sitting in a room w/ my stbx arguing over every little thing, but instead the mediator talked to us separately. I was so glad but still nervous. It’s funny the mediator spoke to my stbx for 3 hours; he only needed to speak to me for 3 minutes. I was satisfied with the outcome. We had really very little to fight over. The only thing is to seal the deal I forfeited child support for 18 months. Considering the likelihood of him paying, because he can’t keep a job and will most likely be going to jail again, I felt it was worth it. I was told that even though he has given in that this will most likely just be the beginning of the battle. The impression the mediator and my attorney get from him is that he will have me in and out of court as much as possible (fighting over our son). In fact he told the mediator that the one reason he was there was because he thought he would get to see me and he still wanted to reconcile. Yet, he’s not controlling at all (at least in his twisted mind). It’s kind of hard to feel happy about getting divorced; maybe it’s just a sense of relief. It’s has been such a hard, long battle. It’s frustrating though to think that this may only be the beginning, not the end.
P.S. - Something funny, in the property settlement he agreed I get the toilet (and the shower curtain too). Oh, thank God! I am not sure if my attorney thought he was crazy (which is beside the point because he is) for adding that or if I was for laughing about it. I guess it��s a good sign that I can laugh at things now then cry all the time.

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