Mental Emotional & Verbal abuse...HELP!

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Registered: 10-15-2004
Mental Emotional & Verbal abuse...HELP!
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Fri, 10-15-2004 - 3:10pm
Hi, I just got married 2 months ago, but have dated my husband for 4 years. He is always calling me names like stupid and trash and things I won't even say here. We have been fighting a lot. Even before we got married. We mostly fight over money. He makes decent money and I am working part time and actively seeking full time work. But nothing is ever good enough for him. He says he will NEVER support me and that I need to pay my half. I would gladly pay for half if I made the money he did! I don't know what to do. He loves money more than me. After we got married we open a joint account. He has direct deposit go there. Well, lately he has been taking money and stashing it in the house somewhere so I don't have access to it. I don't go on shopping sprees, yet I don't know why he doesn't trust me. Today, I checked the bank. He just got paid this morning and he took out $1000.00 to stash away. He told me what was left in there that I am not to touch. I have no money left for food and gas and I don't get paid until next week. He told me to charge it on my credit card whatever I need and that it isn't his problem. Also, about a month ago, we had a fight over the phone. He told me not to bother coming home cause he had locked me out. I told him that I live there too and that I will kick in the window or call the cops if I had to (of course I would never break a window). He said he would shoot me. He does own numerous guns in the house, but I really don't think he would ever do that. It just hurt and I still think about it. Anyway, I'm desparately in need of some advice. If anyone has any, please email me at taf74@yahoo.com. Much appreciated. Thank you.
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Registered: 04-11-2003
Fri, 10-15-2004 - 4:43pm
Hello and welcome to the boards! I am very sorry to hear about your situation but your H sounds scary. "He does own numerous guns in the house, but I really don't think he would ever do that." Please BE careful! Even though you don't think he would use them you never can be to sure. If you feel unsafe about going home call someone to go with you, or the Police Please call the national DV hotline. H esounds very possesive, just like my abuser. CL-blueliner I hope you read this and have some advice for taf. I am worried about her safety. Please keep posting here BE SAFE!
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Fri, 10-15-2004 - 7:46pm

Hi Taf -


I've been trying to come up with an answer for your post since I first read it.

CL-Blueliner4