MIL wants to "know my story"
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|Tue, 07-12-2011 - 10:20am|
So... after my and my husband having to ask my MIL to stop being overly dramatic and showing off oozing incisions to my 4 yr old and then "fainting" in front of him... we had a very tense conversation where I felt the need to disclose a little about my son and my past. I didn't say much, but just said my ex-husband was an a**hole and the kiddo has some issues where certain things can trigger nightmares. She ask for a list of those "certain things" so I began, "yelling, loud noises, fighting, hitting, punching,..." And, I got caught off by her and her husband becoming livid, saying I was accusing them of doing such things.
After a few weeks of me being livid and not wanting to continue the conversation, we got talked into going to dinner with them. At which, my MIL decides it would be ok to mock-slap her husband, and then at the height of a very tense conversation - she throws a fake punch almost in my direction. My dh knows (from his own accidental joke-making a fist) that I completely shut down, tunnel and start crying if I even start to think someone is going to hit me. Luckily my son was facing the other direction, but I quickly excused myself to the bathroom for a quick cry and to hyperventalate a little.
Apparently, while I was in the restroom, my dh gave a stern little lecture to his folks, stating that this is exactly what we were refering to with "hitting, punching, etc." in the conversation on what no to do. Well... last night his mom called. She apparently now thinks she can only "love and support me" if she "knows my story." And is demanding full-disclosure with details. He explained that that is so innapropriate, and from my reactions to hearing his side of the conversation, he could tell I was beyond livid. he tried to explain that even he didn't know all the details and respects me enough to not demand or even want to know EVERYTHING. Hell... I don't even remember/want to remember EVERYTHING.
Plus, she made a big deal of saying that she felt so bad about making me cry that she couldnt sleep for days and ended up in the ER to get a sedative and it's making her physically ill. Ugh. There is no way that I am going to re-live through the worst parts of my life in order to make her feel better.
Am I being too callous here, or is there really a need to tell someone who asks all the sordid details?