More threats - NEED ADVICE.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
More threats - NEED ADVICE.
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Thu, 02-24-2011 - 10:31am

Just when I thought it couldn't get any worse:

I came home last night thinking we were at peace again. He told me he just wanted to live at peace until I moved out.

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Thu, 02-24-2011 - 11:03am

His insane behavior is typical.......and you NEED TO GET OUT OF THERE ASAP.

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Registered: 01-04-2000
Thu, 02-24-2011 - 11:05am

if that money was for his share of the rent for the month of February, he does not get a dime back since he lived there for the full month. If that money was for the month of March and you paid March's rent for the house, then he can stay there for the month and he gets no money back. If he paid for March and you have not paid March's rent yet then yes you should give it back to him but perhaps force him to take you to court for it?...

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Thu, 02-24-2011 - 11:08am

Another thought, Put the boxes of things that are "precious/important to you" in your car so he cannot take them and hide them from you while you are at work. The dogs, can a friend "doggy sit" for you until you can move out to keep them safe from any retaliation? or possibly a dog boarding location? Does a friend have a garage or basement you can temporarily move your boxes of things to to keep them safe from some retaliation?

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 02-24-2011 - 11:23am

March is paidf or. The lease runs through the end of march.

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Registered: 09-06-2007
Thu, 02-24-2011 - 11:31am

He said you are responsible for the full $1600 for March's rent?

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Registered: 09-06-2007
Thu, 02-24-2011 - 12:13pm
Is there a way to round up some people you know to put all of your stuff in a Uhaul for the next 3 days? I mean it might be easier than renting a storage shed and can get you out sooner.

If you think you can wait, then wait. Take some precautions though, like put the dogs somewhere, put all your valuables in your car or with a friend, remove all your bank statements from the house, etc. Just be preventative.
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Registered: 02-28-2001
Thu, 02-24-2011 - 5:42pm

Hi Phili, it sounds like you have a lot going on right now.

Mama Harmony

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Fri, 02-25-2011 - 2:16am

This really isnt about the money to him. It is about control and I would bet if you give him the oney it will not end and he will find something else to want or complain about. This is how most abusers act when things are not going thier way. I say do not give him back the oney because he can stay but is choosing not to. Air mattresses are not that expensive =). His behavior towards you is why you have done the things you have so he can deal with it and leave you alone!!


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Fri, 02-25-2011 - 9:25am

I did not give him the money.