more of the truth unfolds

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2004
more of the truth unfolds
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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 10:32pm

Since I have begun this battle with AHL which seems to be him primarily trying to attack, loot and burn my pocket book while I try to defend my child and my ability to care for him, I have begun to learn all kinds of nasty facts about our previous relationship that I never knew before.

Winding back the reel, I flash back to 1995 when he proposes to me. AHL brings out this beautiful diamond ring. One karat and very sparkly. It was explained to me that the diamond was a gift from his grandmother and that his step father had a colleague who owned a jewelry shop that had it set for a very cheap price. Can't fault him on wanting to save money now can I? About the step father: been married an unknown number of times with an unknown number of children, has taken on assumed names, owes the IRS some several 100K worth of back taxes, has ran every type of sales business imaginable. About the jewelry shop: a little one room place in the heart of a run down neighborhood. The store is dirty and dusty and hard to imagine they sell anything but costume jewelry.

Now AHL wanted to have this lovely diamond appraised and the little beauty received a certificate from this quaint shop for a value of $6000. Oh my! What a quality diamond and what a lucky girl I am right?

Now fast forward back to present. I took the little thing to the most famous jeweler in Austria. They handle millions of dollars worth of jewelry, I think I can trust them. They take a look at it and frown. I press them to look again and they do a more careful analysis on it. Nope, it is only worth 750. It isn't a very good quality diamond at all. They were surprised it received any appraisal of over 1000. So AHL gave me a piece of junk. The oh so expensive saphire ring AHL claimed to have given me wasn't even worth their time. They said it had no value. Question is, did AHL know it was junk, did his step father's friends give a fake high appraisal so that he could impress me?

So since leaving, I have found out over 100k was swiped from the accounts, that he has probably been cheating on me since even the beginning of our relationship, and that he gave me junk and passed it off as valuable items. Of course combine that with the lying, violence, threats, cruelty, drinking, drugs, neglect..... What other truths will unfold now that I have gotten out of his rotting mist of a dark cloud and into the clear, fresh air?

And on a final note, 4 days to go before his 10 days are up to pay the 1095.50 to me as ordered by the judge. Still no money deposited, still no child support sent....

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-14-2003
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 9:37am
Lucky, can you nail his lousy keester if he fails to pay? If so I'll gladly join you in a countdown. Big hugs.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2005
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 11:48am
If he was ordered by the judge to send you payment along w/child support,...and you have YET to receive it from him.....you need to tell your lawyer NOW.
5yrssm 
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Registered: 11-12-2004
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 12:49pm

The comments made me crack a smile after a particularly tough day. Many thanks, it's good to hear from others that understand. Funny that I just had a similar discussion with my mother. Nail his keester? I wish I could. But I am living in Europe. I am a US citizen and so is he. Though the courts here would also be happy to nail his keester, he isn't living in this country either. He lives in Poland it seems, with a girl friend? So executing the orders are very difficult. But we, here, are considering the options....
The lawyer and I get along very well since we are about the same age, (I think) and she is very keen on getting his keester nailed too. But my biggest goals are to get him out of our lives, prevent him from ever hurting us again, and more immediately, trying to repair the financial damage he caused by taking money that wasn't his.

Thanks for the wonderful support. It really makes my day.