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Must end marriage
| Fri, 06-03-2005 - 12:05pm |
Ok, I've finally admitted to some friends and my family that I am miserable and must get out of my marriage. We've been married for 3 years, after 2 DD's (5 & 2). Got married when DD1 was 2and1/2. We've been together for 7+ years. My H has told me that I'm crazy, mental, psycho...he's threatened me that he's going to snap if I don't shut up. A few weeks ago he threw the phone, it ended up hitting me and I got 8 stitches. This has never happened before, but what if it happens again? My 2 yr old was in the room when it happened. What if it hit her? He said he was sorry, but I instigated the argument. We've been in counseling for a few months. I also go alone and so does he--to separate therapists. Last night in our session I told him that I didn't think we should have ever gotten married, that we are both miserable, we share 2 kids and a house, but are roommates. There is nothing between us. We barely speak. I can't even look at him lately. He smokes like a chimney (never in the house) and drinks tons of coffee, so he has this constant yucky smell. He dresses like a slob, has the mouth of a truck driver. I could go on. The biggest problem with divorcing is the money. He spends money like it grows on trees...and says it'll all work out! He bought an $8000 ATV last fall without telling me. I don't know how I can afford it on my own. He says I have issues of my own that I have to deal with and that's what the problem is. I think my problem is that I have these issues (weight/depression) because I'm with him and he has brought me down so low. I have the name of a mediator, but I guess I need to just tell him--I WANT A DIVORCE instead of beating around the bush. I feel relieved that I have finally gotten this off my chest and admitted that he is abusive, mentally, emotionally and now physically and in order to be safe and my girls to be safe, I must end it all.

Hi Keesh, welcome -
I want to let you know your situation is more common than you may think.
CL-Blueliner4