My 2 cents worth . . . .
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| Thu, 04-08-2004 - 9:07am |
Of course, there are many, many, many more stories I could tell - this stretched out over 27 years! I know now that a good man, one who truly loves you would never, never, ever say or do those things to you. Or if he did, it would happen once, he'd discover he'd hurt you and care and never do it again. I guess I doubted myself, that maybe I was too jealous, but now I see I wasn't at all. He deliberately wanted to hurt me and destroy me. The realization of these things helps me go through with this divorce. I know someone else wouldn't treat me this way.
Now I'm going through the stress of his lies and manipulations. For instance, in court Tuesday, he showed his company tax return and tried to say he only made $800 last year! He is constantly hiding money, not running checks through his account, etc. I never even thought that on our personal return that he had a W-2 where he'd paid himself a salary. They didn't decide child support because I had things showing where he'd hidden money. However, the judge asked him if he'd been making the mortgage payment (he hasn't) but he said yes, he'd been making it every month. Well, he hung himself because the judge told him he thought that since he'd been making it that it was only fair for him to keep making it since I was receiving no maintenance! That lie back-fired on him. He told our son that he was paying $800 a month rent where he was living and having to making our mortgage payment of $800!!!! That's a lie - first of all, our mortgage is $509 a month and rent is fairly cheap around here and he would have to be renting an executive home to be paying $800 a month rent! He's such a POS!
If you have doubts and it's happened again and again, it's going to keep happening! They don't change - well, yes, they do. They change their tactics, but the abuse is just as bad or even worse. They just change the tactics so you can't say you do that particular thing anymore they once did. As far as they're concerned, they are perfect! My STBX will tell you he's a good person and that he treated me like a queen! Like I said, he's a POS!
Hugs,
Jackie
