My friend got beat up by her boyfriend!!
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| Fri, 02-18-2005 - 5:18pm |
Hey all.
I really dont know what to do about this one. Let me do a little recap...My friend is (used to be) a really strong independant woman. She never let anybody mess with her. Until she met her boyfriend. They have been together for 1 year, and me and my other friends have only had the pleasure of meeting him onle ONCE!!. Anyways, he's an obsessive, controlling psychopath violent low-life drug dealer. He makes her cry on a daily basis, calls her a whore in public, and tells her that his ex gf (which is also her friend) is much better then her.
Well, a few days ago he finally crossed the line and beat her up. He gave her bruises all over her arms and even choked her. You would think that a smart independent dont-mess-with-me kinda girl would have left this loser a long time ago. But no, she cried to me for a few hours, and then took him back because "he said sorry"!!!!!!!!!!!
I am beyond shoked, disappointed and scared for her. I dont know how to get through to her. I remember once when my own bf called me a stupid bitch, she told me to leave him right away or he will start getting violent!! If only she could follow her own damn advice. So my question is..what do I do???? I dont think anything I could tell her will make her leave him, she is on another planet right now. I feel as if I barely know her anymore. So what do I do??? How do you get through to someone who is blinded by love????????

Hi Lady -
Wow.
CL-Blueliner4
I'm not sure how to write this. I have held it in for a couple of months. The last place I lived in Cal, before moving to Az one year ago, I had a friend next door. When we moved there was an older couple that I loved living next to us. They had four son's , youngest (35) still at home. Other three out of State. This guys was a real looser. Long story short all he wanted to do was find the right girl. He did and she became my friend. The year or two before I left I tried to get her help. She was really nice but turned to drinking. They had two children. 6 and 1. They all lived next door, downstairs is where they stayed. Lots of things went on, one was on the 4th (they had moved into their own place for a short time), he beat her, she went to hospital and they found him hiding in the closet. Arrested and released. I remember something about DUI, DVs and warrants for his arrest. Parents did not deserve this son. They blame LeAnn. I tried to help her through DV but they couldn't help until she stopped drinking. Just last month my ex left a message on my phone saying tough you would like to know LeAnn died. I wii never get over this. I called a girlfriend and she knew nothing. To this day all I know is that she was found dead on a couch in someone's house. She was in her early 30's. I lived in a gated community that everyone new everyone's business. I don't know what more I could have done if I had still been there. It is just so sad that this is going on in our lives. Thanks for letting me get this out only here I know that people understand and care.
Luv, Sherry
Oh, hon, how awful!
CL-Blueliner4