my moment of weakness

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Registered: 11-12-2004
my moment of weakness
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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 11:45pm

Or maybe I should say soft heartedness. But it was all wasted I can tell you. AHL's lawyer contacted mine the morning after the court and proposed an agreement. Funny the agreement was the same one we proposed back in December. Division of property and custody be put off to another date, we agree no support from either, and 50/50 fault. Divorce is done then. We added one more point: pensions are off limits. I was actually thinking he finally had a shred of respect and love for me, and was trying to be reasonable. His lawyer agreed to our request, but then added that: he doesn't have to pay me back any of the court fees I had to pay on his behalf, he doesn't have to pay any of my legal costs for the restraining order, even if he is found guilty, and he doesn't have to pay back any of the money he took from my pay check account (around 3000). Total money he is off the hook for? About 6000 dollars. I told my lawyer that I am having to go negative in my account to pay the mortgage because of the 3000 he took from my pay check this month in one of his malicious moods. Please ask for at the very least, this one back so I can pay the mortgage at the end of the month. She did and his lawyer went into this spiel:

How can I tell my client that he has to pay back that money when I have to tell him he can't have her pension. He estimates he should get about 30,000 a year from that.(keep in mind we are both 35) And she has all of the furniture in the house which is worth some 20,000 dollars? ??? She also has a car worth (please don't take this seriously) 80,000 dollars????!!!! (Oh, my, someone pass me my crown jewels, I feel faint) And she has the house, (which he claims is worth twice what I/we paid for it 1 year ago, but has actually accumulated NO equity in 1 year) She should be paying my client. (keep in mind he liquidated about 40,000 dollars from investments recently and squandered over 100,000 dollars over three years time) I was so insulted. Let's just say what is in the house is worth, at best, 2000 dollars (he wouldn't spend money on new furniture). He wants half the value of the car (it is under a loan, not cash) or 40,000. I bought the car for hardly half that. Let alone, 80,000. I pay only 600 a month into my pension and if I cash out today, I would only get that back for 4 years of paying into it. He has been paying himself 3000 per month for the last 3 years. I never got to see any of it. On top of everything, and taking that money from my paycheck, he claims he doesn't have to pay child support because he hasn't got a job. Yet he can fly back and forth from the US 3 times in the last few months, pay for his mother to come out here twice, tour europe for 2 months, and pay for hotels and rental cars.

I have another court session this morning. His lawyer reported he returned to the US yesterday, without warning the judge or my lawyer. So we have the session without him. Makes it easier for me at least.

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Registered: 02-08-2005
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 9:58am
Don't let his attorney try to blackball you like that.
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