My sister doesn't understand
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My sister doesn't understand
| Tue, 08-10-2004 - 2:39pm |
Please, does anybody know a reference I can refer my sister to so that she understands a bit what I am going through? She has trouble understanding abusive relationships, and is angry that I won't leave. She is bitter and resentful and feels like I keep letting her down. Nothing I say makes much difference to her. I think she just can't believe me any more, when I keep subjecting myself to this guy.
Thanks!

i reminded her of this and i say the light come on. she started laughing talking about how that was different because it only happened once. (you know, that nervous laugh.) i told her to stop and aactually think about it. she stayed with that guy for a little while longer, untill he cheated. now he is in jail for murder. made her wake up a little. JUST A LITTLE. but the little helped her to stop her nagging for a little while. maybe your sister has a hidden secret that you may not know about. try to get her to think about what someone has done to her, someone she really cared about and did she forgive them. be it someone lieing on her, cheating on her. anything. maybe you'll see the light too.
keep your head up- BIG HUGS,
shay
You can tell her until you're blue in the face, but until she's been abused, she'll have no clue as to the dynamics of an abusive relationship.
Books to read:
"Why Does He Do That" by Lundy Bancroft
"Face in the Mirror" by Dianne Schwartz
"The Verbally Abusive Relationship" by Patricia Evans
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You may forget with whom you laughed, but you will never forget with whom you wept.