My Story - need advice/support please

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2013
My Story - need advice/support please
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Mon, 04-15-2013 - 5:16pm

Hello.  I have been referred to this site from another iVillage Forum.    I enclose a link below regarding my story.  (I hope it works!)  Sorry, it is quite long but I poured my heart out yesterday for the first time.  Please could I have some advice/support as I am really struggling.  Thank you.  The link is: http://www.ivillage.com/forums/love-sex/relationship-problems/breaking-hard-do/breaking-hard-do/have-i-suffered-emotional-abuse?

Stuirose

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-1998
Mon, 04-15-2013 - 10:48pm

i agree with the ladies over there that he was emotionally abusive. You cant fix him only he can and he only can once he admits he is the problem

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2013
Tue, 04-16-2013 - 6:00am

Thank you so much for reading my story.  I know it was long!  Also for your opinion. I appreciate it.

Now I know I WAS emotionally abused I have different feelings i.e. angry towards him and with myself for giving him so many chances and forgiving him alot!!  (He is 50 and I am 48 yrs).  Making me believe it was me with a problem!!

He knows what I've been through and that I suffer with anxiety!  I know what he's been through but never EA him!  He thanked me for using him and for hitting him in one of his txts when he finished with me.  I never used him - I did love him.  I just wished he lived on his own (not with his parents supporting him financially.) 

It has helped me heal a bit more knowing he has a problem!  I have two phones at moment.  He doesn't know my new tel. no.  I occasionally look at the otha phone.  He has sent me two txt messages but I am scared to read them!  Even if they were nice txts, I feel I cannot cope with anymore hurt from him!  I am trying to find peace for my mental health.  I want to feel well and at peace when I see my son on Sat.  It is a struggle for me. X

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-1998
Tue, 04-16-2013 - 5:43pm

they are good at making us think we are the problem but its good you see its him and not you. 

Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Tue, 05-28-2013 - 8:54am
Nightangel
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2013
Sat, 07-20-2013 - 3:30am

I"ve

have the emotional , c o dependent relationship also and involving a 4 year old child  and cps its no fun ,, but to every one still dealing with the emotional abuse .......   dont wait for something drastic to happen before you get rid of the problem  women  dont   need  men    who   treat   them badly ........   just hang in there   ......me too

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2013
Sat, 07-20-2013 - 3:30am

I"ve

have the emotional , c o dependent relationship also and involving a 4 year old child  and cps its no fun ,, but to every one still dealing with the emotional abuse .......   dont wait for something drastic to happen before you get rid of the problem  women  dont   need  men    who   treat   them badly ........   just hang in there   ......me too