Here's what I would do because everything seems to be snowballing into everything else and there doesn't appear to be a normalcy. But maybe I'm wrong. Which I could be. It's happened before. :)
Cease all contact until your STBX has been seen by a Psychologist - not the whoever he has been seeing. And you want the results of that evaluation in two weeks. The next two weeks no contact - this whole thing with the drama and everything will not help Averey. Your STBX needs time to cool off and maybe Averey and you need time away from everything that has been happening. It's a power struggle now involving a slew of money. I'm particular when it comes to my money - I am pretty sure you're particular when it comes to yours.
After the two weeks then start over with the whole thing you just typed out - I'm not even sure why you're going back to court - I'm sure that it's a needed visit don't get me wrong but I'm not sure for which issue you're seeing the judge for. How far along are you in the divorce process? Is this a PFA hearing? Or a custody hearing?
Hmm, not sure. She will be there, that i know. I will ask my atty tommorow about that - will she be entering anything into the record about his anger. Good point~! (what woudl i do w/o you guys!)
Well it sounds to me that M may need that phsychologist that was suggested...M can get state assistance to pay for it since he doesn't make alot of money. Is there any way that you can get the GAL to request it? I ask because you are right. If you request it, you will have to pay for it.
I know that getting M to do what's court ordered is probably like pulling teeth, right? My X (divorce was final on May 4) took me back to court this past Tues. and lost. He thought that if he played ignorant, the judge would rescind his last decision about no more overnights (X didn't give our dd her asthma meds, even after the judge told him that if he screwed up one more time, he would end the overnights). The GAL had an ex parte hearing with the judge because my X admitted he didn't give her any meds as he felt she didn't need them. That was the final straw and the judge has limited his visitation with our dd to 6 hours a week.
Last night was one of his visitations and he didn't bother to show up. No call, no nothing. Needless to say, my dd is heartbroken. I don't understand how a grown 48 yo man would do this if he "loves" her so much. M might possibly do the same if he is cornered by the GAL! Ask her about the evaluation and see if she would recommend it to the judge. If she does, the state will assist in the cost, nothing out of your pocket.
Good luck R~! I hope that everything goes your way!
Here's what I would do because everything seems to be snowballing into everything else and there doesn't appear to be a normalcy. But maybe I'm wrong. Which I could be. It's happened before. :)
Cease all contact until your STBX has been seen by a Psychologist - not the whoever he has been seeing. And you want the results of that evaluation in two weeks. The next two weeks no contact - this whole thing with the drama and everything will not help Averey. Your STBX needs time to cool off and maybe Averey and you need time away from everything that has been happening. It's a power struggle now involving a slew of money. I'm particular when it comes to my money - I am pretty sure you're particular when it comes to yours.
After the two weeks then start over with the whole thing you just typed out - I'm not even sure why you're going back to court - I'm sure that it's a needed visit don't get me wrong but I'm not sure for which issue you're seeing the judge for. How far along are you in the divorce process? Is this a PFA hearing? Or a custody hearing?
Already asked about that - if i insist on a Pscy consult for him, *I* have to pay 3K. No way can i do that.
R, is the GAL going to be submitting a report without testifying, or will she be making a statement?
CL-Blueliner4
R~
Hi R~!
Well it sounds to me that M may need that phsychologist that was suggested...M can get state assistance to pay for it since he doesn't make alot of money. Is there any way that you can get the GAL to request it? I ask because you are right. If you request it, you will have to pay for it.
I know that getting M to do what's court ordered is probably like pulling teeth, right? My X (divorce was final on May 4) took me back to court this past Tues. and lost. He thought that if he played ignorant, the judge would rescind his last decision about no more overnights (X didn't give our dd her asthma meds, even after the judge told him that if he screwed up one more time, he would end the overnights). The GAL had an ex parte hearing with the judge because my X admitted he didn't give her any meds as he felt she didn't need them. That was the final straw and the judge has limited his visitation with our dd to 6 hours a week.
Last night was one of his visitations and he didn't bother to show up. No call, no nothing. Needless to say, my dd is heartbroken. I don't understand how a grown 48 yo man would do this if he "loves" her so much. M might possibly do the same if he is cornered by the GAL! Ask her about the evaluation and see if she would recommend it to the judge. If she does, the state will assist in the cost, nothing out of your pocket.
Good luck R~! I hope that everything goes your way!
Melanie