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Need advice/emotional abuse
| Tue, 05-18-2004 - 4:38pm |
My SO is emotionally abusive to me. For some reason, after the birth of my daughter in January I had an "awakening" and realized that the problem wasn't me...it was him. He got physical with me once, but I found out that i'm actually stronger than him and ended up hurting him more than he hurt me. As a result, he hasn't tried it again..lol. I am MOST DEFINITELY leaving him, I refuse to let my daughter be raised in this emotionally abusive enviornment, but it seems as though I won't be able to financially do it until August or September. I was just looking for any advice on how to "counteract" or "deflect" his behavior. I've been so docile for so long, I guess i'd like to give him a taste of his own medicine before leaving him (like he's been threatening to do to me for so long).
Mind you, I have NO FEAR of this man physically. All these years he has used emotional tactics to control me, like threatening to leave me (being alone is a big fear of mine), criticizing me (how I look, dress, cook, clean, parent, etc.), calling me names, blaming me for his infidelity...all the classic symptoms. So playing a head-game or two of my own before I shock him by actually LEAVING HIM would just be for my own satisfaction.
TIA!
Amanda

Good luck to you
LJ
Hi Astarte, and welcome -
Playing headgames or "getting revenge" like that generally isn't recommended because it can backlash and cause more problems and could potentially injure you.
CL-Blueliner4
Welcome to the board, astarte502.
Peace and hugs,
Cheryl =)
The minute you settle for less than you