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| Thu, 01-27-2005 - 11:49pm |
Hey ya'll. :)
I'm about to finish "Why does he DO that", by Lundy Bancroft. I'd like another book recommendation. I know some were mentioned in the past here but I can't seem to find time to look them up, so I thought I'd ask incase someone knew them offhand. As most of you know, I'm going through the healing process and I am not with the person I consider to be abusive anymore and I haven't been since September. We are getting divorced (our 90 day waiting period passed over the weekend) and I won't be getting back together with him. Ever. I enjoy reading books that help me to become a whole person and that help me to gain insight with regard to domestic violence and how it affects the abused partner.
So... can anyone list some books that I should read, or that you think I should read next? I'd like one to get here before I finish this one. I'm really, really excited to be healing and I can feel the positive things that are coming from me reading the book I am now. It is amazing what perceptions I have gained just by reading. And I am beyond sure that I'll have to read this one again and again and again to get all the meaning and to absorb ALL the information. But I want a new book in the meantime.
And to everyone who posts here, ya'll are worth a mate who will treat you like the queens you are. I understand that sometimes men can have off days but it's how they react to them that makes all the difference in the world.
(((Hugs)))
~Me

Well, welcome back!
The only book coming to me off the top of my head that would work for your situation is "Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out" by Patricia Evans.
CL-Blueliner4
Hi!
Right now I am reading Controlling People by Patricia Evans
It gives you alot of good psychological reasons why some people control and why others do not. It's helping me quite a bit. I have alot of family members with this problem as well as my h---lucky me huh??!! lol
Good Luck!
Hi! Congratulations! You sound like you are really moving forward in a positive direction!
I have seen several books by Patricia Evans in the bookstore that look good.
Currently, I'm reading "The Emotionally Abused Woman" by Beverly Engel, MFCC. I am finding it to be very helpful. Ms. Engel was both emotionally and sexually abused in her past, so I've found that she can put the complicated feelings that I could not express into words based on her experience. The book is divided into 4 parts. Parts 1 and 2 describe the psychological patterns found in abused women as well as their partners, which you'd probably find interesting if you liked Lundy Bancroft's book. Part 3 probably wouldn't apply to you- it's about deciding whether to stay or go, and how to do it. But Part 4 is about the healing process after abuse, which sounds like something that applies to your situation.
Also, she has a book entitled "Encouragements for the Emotionally Abused Woman". I haven't read it personally, but you might want to check into it.
Best of luck to you!