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| Tue, 11-22-2005 - 12:39pm |
I'm not happy and I have no one to blame but myself. I let him continue contacting me. I don't understand why I do this. Physically, the hard part is over. He's out of my house and no longer a physical presence in my life. He's not even on my lease, I pay the bills, it is totally my life now, but I continue to talk to him, and his emotional abuse is why we split in the first place.
It's not me initiating the contact. I have actually been quite impressed with myself for not wanting to call him...so why can't I just not answer when he calls, why can't I block his number. I hate it because I know what the right thing to do is, yet I don't have the strength to get rid of him completely?
Nicole

you have to force yourself to get this creep completely out of your life. I took 1 call too many from my ex after he left. He only called to throw up in my face how he got married and found his "soulmate." Even though I was glad he was gone, I still loved him and did not want to hear how happy he was. Everytime he called, "click." That was all he'd hear on the other end until he finally got the message. He was still trying to be in control and torture me even after he was gone.
Don't let him to continue to do this to you. Be strong, get caller id and do not answer his calls. Just think about all of the emotional abuse this man has put you through. Now tell yourself, it's finally over, I can get on with my life. This is then end of that chapter with him but not the end of your life. You still have alot of living to do.
Something some of us have found helpful is to make a list of the worst things he's said or done and stick it by the phone, door, computer.