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| Sat, 01-29-2005 - 12:09am |
I need help I just found out my 16 year old is being abused buy her boy friend!
I so want to help her I and I got her to open up and tell me what was going on I have been thought it my self so I understated why she stay with him she said she wants to brake up with him but he has been telling her he will hart her if she dose she been aferd to tell me and her dad because she thought we would make her break up with him and she is scared to that he will heart her or him self I undersant her after talking to her comely all day I got her to agree to brake up with him on her own with out making it look like I was making her. She felt happy she cloud come to me I have it set up for her to see a consoler Monday after school I have been telling him she is grounded for the weekend when he call because she wants to talk to the consoler fist the conlor is from turning point a women’s shelter around her she was happy she cloud talk to me I can keep him away from her
Till then I also want to talk to school and make sure they can keep her safe in school
Before she tells him she wanted me to tell him I would not let her date him watch is ok with me. Well her dad has always been here for her and I wanted him to know what is going on and so did she needs her dad more than me right now she need him to tell her on guy should ever do this to her. So when he came home today we tried to sit down and talk to him he thinks she is his pertict little girl than would never let her self get heart
Or in any trouble she is a very good girl I for one never thought this would happen to he of all people she is very loved buy both me and her dad she has great friend plans for her life gets good grades in school and has always had a lot of self conavaeds in her self (some time a little to much) she always said she would never let it happen to her as we have always talked to her about this stuff and what to look out for. But she is a human she can get hart and make bad chooses we all can well her dad go off on her and me!
He said he doesn't think it would ever happen to her. After me telling him it clam down or leave. Him yelling and upsetting her asking her what did she do to up set him he left for a bit came back clumer and wanted to talk to her alone I keep asking him to talk to me first
She talk to him now he has got her thanking leavening him when she still loves him may not be the way to go that we should have him over for a talk so he can let him know
If he ever hits her agene he will kill him he thanks that is going to make him stop. All that is going to do is get here beat up if not worst like kill her. How do I get her to listen to me now I will never forgive him for this where is the man I married the one that would have never told his kid to let some guy hit her! The caring loving dad he always was I will never ever tell him anything agene I am so ready to take her and leave right now! That how made I am never in a million year would I ever thought he would tell her this now I fell bad that I ever got her to talk to him now how will she ever talk to me agene! How do I make her see to leave him now! If anyone here that has been or is being abused can email me with litter I can give her of your stores that may help her places can u email me at
jenny@embedsandmore.com
If I can get lots of emails of what can or did happen to other maybe she will se she has to go I will never ever tell him anything agene also if you can give any info on web pages for teens and abuse it will also help places she can get info from other teens
Also any help on how I can get her to trust me agene
Thank you for all your help I am so scared right now

Hi Jenny, welcome -
Let me suggest a few things:
First, please call the police department and explain the situation.
CL-Blueliner4
i agree w/ blueliner protect your daugter and let her know it's NOT her fault, contact the police and get her to counseling or an abuse support group.
another thing to do is contact her teachers, principal, school nurse and perhaps guidance couselor . let them know what has happened. that way they can keep an eye on her and the boy. contact them by writing a letter, post it to all of them and keep a copy for yourself. it will help you to document the problem if needed. also make sure she knows not to be alone with him at all costs. great idea to say she is grounded.
it might also do your husband some good to read the posts here and to read the information about abuse that you can receive from a local shelter or the YWCA.
your daughter should look at this information too. abuse can happen to anyone even with the best of parental care.
goodluck
-me