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|Sat, 12-11-2010 - 8:11pm|
Ok..I need someone to tell me what to make of this.
We had to pick up DD from some school activity..turned out it took almost 2 hrs of waiting. So this delayed our next appt and DD wanted to be dropped home. He flipped and started to yell at her as to her selfishness. I kept quiet through the process but he kept yelling at her for not coming with us and insisted she does. She wasnt feeling that well..so I interjected saying better she be dropped back. But I could see he was mad and continued to yell at her and berate her. He dropped her and started to drive without even checking door was open. I finally said i am not coming either and went on. He came inside..took a bag of clothes and left. Not sure where he went.
While I can understand dd was selfish but when it comes to kids a 2 pm does turn to a 4 pm..as she was in a class..yes..she could have been more understanding that we as parents do wait around..but she wasnt well..and I didnt want to force her to come with us for another appt 2 hrs away. Anyway..I feel it is a issue on both sides..parent has to be flexible and go with the flow..teen will be a teen..yelling and screaming at teenager only makes things worst.
from a 3rd party, I would say - what is big deal and drop the kid off and go on about. Am I too soft..is he right..anyway..he got mad 'cos i think he thinks i took her side..and just wanted to get home.
Any opinions..anyway..he left and not picking up phone...not sure where he is..At the end, it is frustrating to wait for a kid for 2 hrs but that is how it is..and she is not to be blamed..it is not like she went off with a boy friend..it was an activity that got delayed..but now we dont know where he has gone..whether he is coming back..
Not sure what to think..if he is gone, well and good..but he hasnt taken much for anything permanent. any ideas?