Need Reassurance

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Registered: 05-11-2004
Need Reassurance
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Fri, 01-07-2005 - 3:53pm

Well, I will try to make my story short. I have been with my stbx for about 9 years (4 married) Last month, he called after a weekend with his buddies and told me he wasn't coming home. We made arrangements and I thought we would get through everything just fine. He moved in with another woman and I was happy that he was getting on with things and leaving me alone. Then, he came back and told me he wanted to move home (which isn't happening since he is the one who left and moved in with somebody else).

Since I told him that he was not moving back in with me, he has gotten very verbally abusive. He calls repeatedly to do nothing more than call me every name in the book. He came to my house last week and ripped up pictures of us and left them all over the house, as well as kicking over some large brick planters in front of my house. I got a protective order 4 days ago, which he has already violated by calling me and pretending to be somebody else and sneaking around my yard a night! We have a hearing on Wednesday, but I would really like any advice or reassurance that I can get through this. I haven't been staying at home because I am scared to be there. I am getting desperate and don't really know how to stay sane throughout this process. Does it ever get any better?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Fri, 01-07-2005 - 4:27pm

Hi Ky, welcome -


It does get better, but you have to take steps as well.

CL-Blueliner4