Need Reassurance .....Again!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2003
Need Reassurance .....Again!
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:03am
Lately I have been having thoughts that maybe it wasn't so bad.... maybe I am being oversensitive... I know this is normal. I have written down everything I can think of that he has done or said. I keep re-reading this and it helps some. I just can't think of him as this monster because he didn't fly into rages. He would just criticize everything especially my appearance (weight, clothes, hair). But it was all for my own good according to him. He "knows what's looks good on me".

The physical stuff was isolated incidences over the 6.5 years of marriage. He slapped me probably 3 times, choked me once, restrained me a few times leaving bruises, and punched me in the arm leaving bruises where his knuckles hit me. Then there was the "rough play", wrestling, "play" punches, etc. This aggression always seemed to get out of control. Maybe I am oversensitive but I don't like being rough housed then he would want to have sex sometimes....after aggression the last thing I wanted was sex!



Somebody remind me again that this is not normal????

I am so afraid he is going to go to an abuser treatment program and they'll tell him, "Oh, that's not abuse"!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 2:19pm

IT'S NOT NORMAL.

CL-Blueliner4