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| Tue, 08-22-2006 - 2:52pm |
hi I posted here a few days ago
I just wanted some advice on something,
I'm seeing a doctor this week for my anxiety. As I said in my post earlier this week the abuse (the physical part) has stopped but should I bring it up with my doctor? If so what do you think i should say?
I know this is silly but i'm really ashamed and don't know what to say.
I know my anxiety is caused by everything that's happened in the past and I want to treat it so that I can feel better. Thanks.

Hi Rosie,
I would think that your doctor will ask you where do you think you are getting your anxiety from. Then you will tell them that you are in an abusive relationship. They might talk with you, ask you questions, give you advice. My doctor did this to me and she was great about it. She wanted to know, gave me a counsellor to call and go and see, asked questions and gave advice. The hardest part for me was actually admitting it and opening up. As soon as that happened, everything just poured out of me.
I undertand why you feel ashamed - because I did too and still do. I am ashamed that I never noticed how bad it was until now when i am not in the relationship. I am ashamed that I let so much happen.. I am ashamed that I let him control me and I never stood up for myself. You are not alone.
One more thing... Some meds might help you anxiety, but in the end the only way it will get better, is to be out of your abusive relationship.
Lauren
Your doctor is probably going to ask, given the nature of what you're being treated for, and you should tell him. Most doctors are very aware of DV these days: he may be able to hook you up with DV resources in your community.
I also agree with the post stating to remember that medications may make you less anxious, but they won't stop the abuse. Your husband/SO is the cause of that, and he's what has to be addressed.