Need some advice

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Registered: 06-04-2003
Need some advice
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Fri, 07-16-2004 - 10:21am
It's been a long time since I last posted here, although I always come back to read and find answers. I was in a 8 year abusive relationship (verbally, physical, emotional, everything). My oldest child was 8 when I met my ex. To make a long story short my son is now 18 and he is acting just like my ex, not physically, but verbally. I am a single mother of 3, only my income. My son works but does not contribute anything for the house. A few months ago I helped him buy a car and got him insurance. He has a learners permit and was 2 weeks away from getting his drivers license. One day he took the car, and of course he was stopped by the police. They gave him a $275 ticket and 5 points on his record. Additionally, the police almost gave me a ticket and 5 points on my license because he said that since the car is registered in my name, it is my responsibility. i explained to him that I had repeatedly talked with my son about the consequences of driving alone and that being 18 he knows what he is doing. Fortunately the police understood and di not give me a ticket. I have since taken away the car keys. Now he is threatening me not to make any payments on the car or the insurance. I have explained to him that he cannot drive if he does not have a license and he does not understand. He just answers me "I told you, you give me the car keys or else... you are warned, i already told you". I am still struggling day to day with the aftermath of my abusive relationship and now I am literally reliving it all over again. I am finding myself walking on eggshells, waiting for my son to do or day something. And he is my son. I don't know what to do. this is not the first time he has acted like this. i have told him that i am going to take him to therapy, his answer, "you can not force me to do anything, i am 18 now". Has anyone been thru this?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: rose65
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 1:03pm

Hi Rose, welcome back -


We have another poster who is having similar (though more severe problems) with her 19 yo son.

CL-Blueliner4