Need your help on this girls

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Registered: 12-11-2004
Need your help on this girls
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Sat, 02-26-2005 - 8:35pm
hey everyone, as you seen in my last post i cannot leave as i thought because i didnt get enough back on taxes. But I have enough money for a damage deposit on a apartment, that is all. I do have a job, so i was thinking i should just leave next week anyways. I cannot stay here with hubby anymore, i will go insane, cause im half there. I would rather be dirt broke for a little while. It just seems so scary going out with not much $$$, but really, when will i ever have enough and be ready to leave, I just need to go and not look back, it will always be something...either i dont have enough money , or i feel to guilty, This time i just have to go, prepared or not. I cannot emotional take this anymore, my will to keep fighting him is gone. What do you girls think? am i over my head on this one, or should i just say **** it and go!
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Registered: 02-08-2005
Sat, 02-26-2005 - 9:22pm
Whenever you feel you are in doubt and get scared, go and look at the link on the board website or in Off Topic and look at Safety Planning when you are ready to leave.
5yrssm 
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Sun, 02-27-2005 - 1:04am

I would say to **** with it and go!! When I left, all I had was the clothes on my back (and my dd back)! We didn't even have shoes as we were in our PJ's. We had no money, as he kept everything in HIS bank account and when we tried to come back, he had changed the locks!!! Little did he know that on Monday morning, we went to our local DV dept. and to court to get an RO against him for abuse. He was served the same day and out he was! Since then, I have had only (face to face anyway) ONE BAD encounter with him and now he is facing jail time! SUCKS to be him but, enough is enough! What goes around, comes around!!!

OK hun, it is up to you! Do what you think is best, but, know that ALL of us are here for you!!! GO FOR IT!!!

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Sun, 02-27-2005 - 3:04am

Like I told mfc77, take your opportunities where they lie.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 12-11-2004
Sun, 02-27-2005 - 7:35pm
thank you everyone. I have decided im gonna go for it!!, better put my game face on, im going to look at some apartments tomorrow, and than my dad said he can help me move out this weekened, when hubby is gone working. This is it girls, this is my time to shine, and i want to thank you all for being there for me. I will keep posting and updating. IM GONNA BE FREE!!!!!!!
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Registered: 04-22-2004
Mon, 02-28-2005 - 10:08am

Good luck! You can do it! As Blue said, it's about freedom! You'll be so much better off. Yes, it's scarey. Yes, it's hard; but with determination and prayers for strength, you can do it. I did it last May. I pay my bills and am even able to enjoy life now and then, and I'm FREE. That's what it's all about. Yes, sometimes those doubt feelings kick in. Then I sit and talk on the phone, read a magazine, take a long, soothing bath without a d*amn soul bothering me. And you will shine! You will glow!!!! People will be able to see you glow!!!!

You'll do just fine. And we're all here for you when you need us.

Prayers to you,
Happy

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 10:15pm
& youre gonna LOVE IT!!!!!!!! R~

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