Needing Help with Husband's PTSD Flashbacks and Possibility of Violence
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|Tue, 01-31-2012 - 1:14pm|
You all know how much my husband and I support and love each other. I've also mentioned that we both have PTSD - mine from family/dating violence and his is combat-related. In someways this makes us more able to understand each other. We've both had our "freak out" flashback meltdown moments in front of each other, but lately his flashbacks are getting much worse. Since his grandfather died, it triggered something for him and he's been depressed and anxious, but now - there are some incredibly vivid flashbacks. In these, he has never laid a finger on me, but he has become incredibly upset at the idea that he might. And, really, I don't know how I would handle it if that ever were to happen. And, now I'm starting to get scared and not be able to handle it as well anymore. We are both just stewing in fear of when the next flashback will happen. He got put on some meds recently, and the xanax and amitriptyline seem to be helping with day to day anxiety, but have actually increased the incidents of flashbacks. His doctor is helping him alot and is tried to pull all the strings she can, but the ptsd specialist therapist can't see him until a month from now.
Also, he's telling me things during the flashbacks that both of us would rather I not know. Any suggestions on (1) how to cope with this new knowledge, (2) how to handle the flashbacks that could become violent and (3) how to get us both to stop worrying ourselves to pieces over when the next flashback will hit.