New here and feel lost

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Registered: 08-27-2011
New here and feel lost
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Sat, 08-27-2011 - 12:37am

Hello.

Many of this has probably already been said by someone else on here.

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Registered: 02-28-2001
Sat, 08-27-2011 - 8:13am

Hi Maddie, and welcome to the board.

Mama Harmony

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Registered: 08-27-2011
Mon, 08-29-2011 - 3:05pm
I feel stupid for asking for an order or making a report. I am the one that has let him talk me into dropping numerous protection orders over the years. I'll get laughed out of court.

My DD is 7. I also have a 15 yr old DD at home (my 19 yr old DS and 20 yr old DD have already moved out). The older kids are from a previous marriage. They hate him.

He makes excellent money ($15,000 this month alone) I make less than $2000 a month. I cannot afford to work more days because childcare would eat it. No, I cannot get help with that in WA because I have a job. Go figure that one. Anyway I onle work one schoolday (fri) and also sat and sun. About 25 hours a week. I could pick up more hours at night but I am afraid to leave the girls alone and I risk not being off in time to see my youngest off to school. (I deal cards in a casino). Legal aid will not help unless he gets a lawyer. I did fill out the paperwork (tedious but not hard) and really just wanted a lawyer to argue for me. If I don't change the paperwork I will get it by default so I may not change it.

I live in a eastern Washington state. Small agricultural
community. It's kinda the forgotten corner here. Spokane gets most of the monies for this side of the state with the rest going to the west side - Seattle, Tacoma, etc. Sorta frustrating. But hey. I guess I can only end up stronger if I am forced to do it alone right?

I will chack back later. He has finally contacted me and I have a feeling he will soon be over here. He's trying to play nice. Not asking to come back, but he still wants thinggs I already know enough to know he only contacts us for self serving purposes .