New Here! Very long story sorry!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-23-2004
New Here! Very long story sorry!
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Wed, 04-07-2004 - 10:40am
Hi. I got to this board by a link on the "should i stay or go board?". Thank God for places like this. Ok here is my situation.

My husband and i have been married 4 years now and had our first little boy last year (6 months old now). Ok my husband started out before we were even married controling where i went, who i talked to, what clothes i wore etc. Then after we where married, i was not "allowed" to work, go to school or talk to my family. Then the drugs came in and he was high ALL the time and physical abusive and then i HAD to ge a job to support us and his drug use.

After our baby was born, i told him i had had it and our son would not be around the drugs, yelling, fighting etc. My husband stop the drugs (but started drinking) and joined the military. He has been going 4 months now and i have been happier then i can ever remember being, I am just now seeing how much he controled me and how i "walked on egg shells" around him. I love him ofcourse but i don't want to go back to live that way. Should i give him another chances and hope with a new job and a new baby he will improve or should i leave while i still have some good sense about me?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 12:45pm

Hi Crazy and welcome -


How long is he on his initial duty?

CL-Blueliner4